Single (or in the Wrong Relationship)?

“We want love that changes hearts and souls. We mean love that pushes those who have it to perform deeds that will then get documented in history as a beautiful love story.”

Jassem Al-Mutawa

Dear Mama,

I know that Valentine’s Day is around the corner. I also know that Valentine’s Day is pretty straightforward for some, and not at all straightforward for others. Which is your camp this year: straightforward or not-so-straightforward?

If you’re deeply in love but that love is achy because you haven’t been able to have your baby together yet, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If you’re in a relationship and deep down you know it’s not your best life, but you feel like you don’t have enough time left on your biological clock to venture off in search of true love: I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If you’re single and worried that you won’t find your person while you can still have babies, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If you quietly wonder if your ticking biological clock is subconsciously pushing people/love away, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If Valentine’s Day feels totally straightforward for you, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If Valentine’s Day feels totally amazing for you, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
I wasn’t very good at love (of a significant other) until I committed to meeting and loving my Magical Hubby, Jaïr. Next week, I will tell you about my process of committing to meeting and loving my person; but, today, I have something else to share with you: It’s called “obsessing in a good way.”

As we teach you in the Primemester Protocol, “obsessing in a good way” is part of the Psychosexual Level of your Fertility Pyramid. What is obsessing in a good way?

Here’s what it is not. This type of obsessing is not the downward spiral that happens when you dive into the feeling of desperately wanting something and become consumed by the chaos and confusion of not knowing why you don’t have it yet or how you’ll ever get it. In this usual type of obsessing, our desires feel outside, apart, separate from us. And being outside, apart, and separate is painful for us. We are, after all, social beings—from our brains, to our hearts, to our guts, and every other part of us.

Obsessing in a good way is about being in clear vision and deliberate action toward the thing that we desire while already living now in the energy of appreciation that we will experience when our desire is our reality. In the energy of appreciation, what we desire wants us too and is already part of us.

Yes, obsessing in a good way is so much easier said than done, it’s true. But it can be learned. It is a practice like meditation, and it is a muscle that gets stronger with practice.

What you desire—your perfect Valentine’s Day, your perfect person, your perfect superbaby—is meant for you. That is how your desire was born in the first place. Your desire wants you, too, Mama.❤️

Sending you unconditional loving kindness and superbaby dust,

Dr. Cleopatra

P.S. If you are female-identifying, join our awesome, ❤️loving❤️, complimentary Facebook Community, The Art & Science of Getting Pregnant.

Join an incredible league of 1600+ for access to exclusive fertility, pregnancy, and parenting guest experts.

This year, I will be conducting our Fertility Library interviews live within the Facebook group. You won’t want to miss these!

Also: You have never seen a more loving, accepting, or supportive place on the internet.

I love my FPI Village so much.

Thank you for being who you are and for being such an important part of my life and each other’s lives.

“We want love that changes hearts and souls. We mean love that pushes those who have it to perform deeds that will then get documented in history as a beautiful love story.”

Jassem Al-Mutawa

Dear Mama,

I know that Valentine’s Day is around the corner. I also know that Valentine’s Day is pretty straightforward for some, and not at all straightforward for others. Which is your camp this year: straightforward or not-so-straightforward?

If you’re deeply in love but that love is achy because you haven’t been able to have your baby together yet, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If you’re in a relationship and deep down you know it’s not your best life, but you feel like you don’t have enough time left on your biological clock to venture off in search of true love: I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If you’re single and worried that you won’t find your person while you can still have babies, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If you quietly wonder if your ticking biological clock is subconsciously pushing people/love away, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If Valentine’s Day feels totally straightforward for you, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
If Valentine’s Day feels totally amazing for you, I see you and I am sending you loving kindness.
I wasn’t very good at love (of a significant other) until I committed to meeting and loving my Magical Hubby, Jaïr. Next week, I will tell you about my process of committing to meeting and loving my person; but, today, I have something else to share with you: It’s called “obsessing in a good way.”

As we teach you in the Primemester Protocol, “obsessing in a good way” is part of the Psychosexual Level of your Fertility Pyramid. What is obsessing in a good way?

Here’s what it is not. This type of obsessing is not the downward spiral that happens when you dive into the feeling of desperately wanting something and become consumed by the chaos and confusion of not knowing why you don’t have it yet or how you’ll ever get it. In this usual type of obsessing, our desires feel outside, apart, separate from us. And being outside, apart, and separate is painful for us. We are, after all, social beings—from our brains, to our hearts, to our guts, and every other part of us.

Obsessing in a good way is about being in clear vision and deliberate action toward the thing that we desire while already living now in the energy of appreciation that we will experience when our desire is our reality. In the energy of appreciation, what we desire wants us too and is already part of us.

Yes, obsessing in a good way is so much easier said than done, it’s true. But it can be learned. It is a practice like meditation, and it is a muscle that gets stronger with practice.

What you desire—your perfect Valentine’s Day, your perfect person, your perfect superbaby—is meant for you. That is how your desire was born in the first place. Your desire wants you, too, Mama.❤️

Sending you unconditional loving kindness and superbaby dust,

Dr. Cleopatra

P.S. If you are female-identifying, join our awesome, ❤️loving❤️, complimentary Facebook Community, The Art & Science of Getting Pregnant.

Join an incredible league of 1600+ for access to exclusive fertility, pregnancy, and parenting guest experts.

This year, I will be conducting our Fertility Library interviews live within the Facebook group. You won’t want to miss these!

Also: You have never seen a more loving, accepting, or supportive place on the internet.

I love my FPI Village so much.

Thank you for being who you are and for being such an important part of my life and each other’s lives.